Is it love? or obsession with me?

ive been "dating" this 30 year old man for 2 years...just dating i told him i need space and were just friends hes always their when i need him he listens to my problems all day he was always their when i had problems with my ex, he takes me out on the weekend buys me stuff here n their and never rushes anything with me...sounds great right? NO! i tell him all the time hes jus a friend i will never see him in any other way and he still offers to hang out with me ! his family tells him to leave me alone cuz they know i dont like him in that way but he still doesent listen to nobody ! i find it kind of cute at first that he liked me so much that hell wait and keep trying to get with me but now its starting to creep me out because he still talks to me all the time and its like creeping me out because he doesent move on ! why cant he find a grl dat actually loves him more than a frriend and wants to kiss n have sex with him? hes like stuck on me i guess its cuz i treat him nice? i even told his mom in front of him that i see her son as a friend nothing more because hes not my type and he doesent even feel imbarassed with his own family of how of a idiot hes looking goin after a grl dat doesent love him n never will ! its been 2 years like this..a little about this guy hes 30 still lives with his mom/mommas boy/always broke/money he has he wastes it on me/he can barely drive/i have to babysit him all da time because he acts like hes 18/i feel like i mother him/ he just got a job recently cuz i made him so he can buy me stuff/ hes has no ambtion/lazy/everyone thinks hes an idiot/ nobody respects him/hes like a doormat/pushover/ stutters/nerdy/weird/ the only good quality he has is that he has a good heart. THATS IT. i always try to get rid of him and tell him we should move on but he just doesent give up on me.help!